Quick updates

The last 3 weeks have been extremely busy at Nikki’s household. What with 2 birthday parties (1 on the real birthday and a BIG one on the Saturday following his birthday), painting of the guest room, cleaning up house, shopping for India trip, I still haven’t been able to breathe normally. One GREAT thing that happened because of all this, I am out of my gloomy mood, the party planning and execution really cheered me up and I am my usual self now. Will do a detailed birthday post once I reach India. I absolutely have no time right now.

My mind is clear. How am I going to deal with ILs? By keeping calm, that’s it. They cannot quarrel with me, you need 2 sides to quarrel. I did the mistake once, will not repeat it again. I am sure they will come up with something because I am going to spend more time with my family & friends, at least until DH comes to India. And then it is upto DH where he wants to spend his time.

Two main resolutions that I am planning to follow this year:

1. Give up – Judging others & “Better than thou” attitude. I have stopped being critical about myself. Fights between me & DH have reached record proportions, I am leading a life that I vowed I will never let happen to me. I certainly do not want Nikki grow up seeing us like this. Both DH & I blame each other for not doing x, y, z’s we have forgotten that we have not done our a, b, c’s right. “Better than thou” is causing lot of inter-personal conflicts not only between DH & I, but also with others. DH is not willing to see his shortcomings, I will take the first couple of steps and I am sure he will see reason and follow suit.

2. Take back – calmness : I will not let my mind lose it’s calm because somebody else has lost theirs. It is not very tough, that is how I used to be, I can get back there, just by being mindful of every action / word that comes from me. Should not get so emotional for trivial things.

There many other small resolutions that I make every year: losing weight (this year add 5 month pregnant tummy to it), learn something new(take a course at the community college), do something to reduce my impatience (I think it is in my personality, the day I overcome this, I have become a saint) that never seem to happen. Let me see how things work out this year.

I have been reading all of your blogs, lurking around mostly because of lack of time, wanted to comment on lot of posts(DotMom’s concern about Chip liking pink, mnamma’s post, Kiran’s post on Krish’s new scooty, Tharini’s posts on Thambi & homemade kanji (you are awesome Tharini), CeeKay’s posts, Boo’s post on sledging, Parul’s posts, & whole load of others where I usually lurk around …). I do not know if I will have time. Will catch you all next weekend from India. Meanwhile, those of you believers, please pray that we have an uneventful trip and Nikki takes well to the flight travel.

HAPPY & HEALTHY NEW YEAR to ALL OF YOU. May all of us have the strength to keep up our resolutions!